Busting Excuses
When we get nervous, we make excuses. When we don’t value ourselves, we make excuses to not put ourselves first and prioritize self care. Sometimes life is just busy, things are crazy at work, you have to get kids to their sports and activities, and the dog just puked on the carpet AGAIN. Sometimes it’s really important that you’re present and spending quality time with your spouse, or your family. We also use excuses like “I have to lose 15 lbs first!” and “I just don’t have the money right now!”
I wanted to write this to show you that no matter what the obstacle is that is preventing you from making your desire of a boudoir shoot come true, you can do it! You are worthy of self love, and you deserve to fall deeply and madly in love with yourself.
“I don’t have enough time for myself”
It’s important to remember that if you aren’t taking care of yourself mentally, you’re not going to be able to take care of everything and everyone else in the way that you want. I know this can be challenging, especially in a society and culture where the “grind” is glorified, productivity is glamorized, and sacrificing yourself for others is revered. But the one to suffer the consequences from never taking time for yourself is well, you.
It’s so important throughout the day to remember that if the pilot of your plane (aka YOU) isn’t well-rested, well-fed, and feeling capable and in the zone, there’s a great probability that that plane is going to crash eventually. That’s why mental health checkins and breaks should become an essential part of your day.
At a boudoir shoot you are able to breath, slow down, and for a few hours, have that time to focus on just yourself. No kids pulling you in every direction, nothing to clean up or cook, no meetings or coworkers to attend to, no no no.
This time is for you to reconnect with yourself, replenish your spirit, reinvigorate your energy and recharge your batteries, all the while getting glammed up and having the most amazing and beautiful photos of you taken!
“I’m not where I want to be weight-wise/I don’t fit the media’s idea of a good enough body/size”
Did you know that the body type portrayed in advertising as the ideal is possessed naturally by only 5% of American females? ONLY FIVE PERCENT. And while we are on the topic, WHO DECIDED WHAT THE “IDEAL” BODY TYPE IS FOR THIS YEAR?! Ok, I’ll stop yelling.
I will say this over and over again, but WHY do you have to be a certain size or shape to be able to LOVE yourself? WHY do you have to fit a stranger’s ridiculous idea of a “perfect body” to LOVE your own body?? WHY are you comparing your size to everyone else, when we are like snowflakes – no two are the same!
I fully believe and support goals to become better, healthier versions of ourselves, but doing so out of LOVE, respect and appreciation for your body – not out of hate for the things you want to change.
You should absolutely love yourself and your body every step of the way, even if you haven’t walked as far in your journey yet. Be proud of where you are so that you can be proud of where you’re going.
Have a boudoir shoot to celebrate where you are now, and then have one when you lose those 15 lbs to celebrate your hard work and how far you’ve come!
“I never feel sexy or sensual anymore/I don’t know how to be sexy, so a boudoir shoot must not be for me.”
WRONG.
This excuse is the exact reason you SHOULD do a boudoir shoot.
Oftentimes we lose touch with our femininity and/or sexuality when life gets crazy because of health/kids/work. It can happen slowly over time and we don’t even realize it. A great way to reclaim your sensuality and bring your sexy back is to have a boudoir shoot. I will show you how to reconnect with your divine feminine energy and harness her power, and it might even reignite the fire and turn up the heat between you and your spouse!
Another thing to remember is that you don’t HAVE to wear super lacy and sexy clothing/lingerie. If you feel like this doesn’t show your personality, then that’s totally ok! There are many other outfit ideas. If you need help, I would gladly talk to you about other options, or you can check out my blog post on finding them!
“A boudoir shoot is an investment and I don’t have all the money right now.”
Yes, a boudoir experience IS an investment. It’s an investment in yourself – the most important and valuable person in your life. You are investing in your well-being, your confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, and the source of all life – your divine feminine energy.
If money is an obstacle, I do offer payment plans. In order to book your shoot, there is a booking retainer, and after that we can set up your payment plan for the remaining balance so that it might be easier for you to book! If you have any questions about my payment plans, shoot me an email while setting up your shoot!
Join Our Boudoir Community on Facebook!
Our group on Facebook is a place for women to come together and help each other to rise! It is not just to talk about boudoir photography, but is a safe place to lift one another up while learning how to more deeply love, accept, embrace, and care for ourselves.
If you’re a client, or thinking about doing a session, this is the place to be! We also run contests and special sales in our group from time to time.
